One of the first known contraceptives was crocodile dung, used by Egyptians.
Last night I went out to a bar with my boyfriend, his cousin Richard, and Richard’s girlfriend Katherine. At one point, my boyfriend and Richard went outside, leaving Katherine and I alone sitting in a corner of the bar.
Almost immediately, two guys swarmed us, even though we were clearly having a conversation (both of us are education majors). Repeatedly, I told the guys that we were having a conversation and to please leave us alone. One of the guys remained persistent.
I hate saying, “Yeah. I have a boyfriend.” to get guys to leave me alone. Mostly because I do not think that I should have to explain or have a reason in order to have a conversation with someone of the same sex without being interrupted by some guy trying to make sexual advances at us. I think “Please leave us alone.” should suffice.
After several times of telling the guys that we did not want to converse with them, we finally excused ourselves and went outside to stand with our boyfriends. I was furious at this point. Richard, in an attempt to be kind, asked if I would like for him and my boyfriend to go speak to these guys. I told him I appreciated his sentiment, however that was exactly the problem. I should not, Katherine, nor any other woman in this world, need a man to rescue them from unwanted attention.
Katherine made the comment that we should “take it as a compliment.” Another problem. Harassment, cat calling, and the like is not a compliment. It is an insult. It is insulting that this type of behavior is the norm and to be expected. Girls and Women, like Katherine, have been taught that if you are receiving unwanted attention from males that it should be taken as a compliment. Because if you are not receiving any unwanted attention then you must be ugly. Excuse me but, who the fuck started this bullshit? What person decided that harassment was a form of adulation?
I am twenty six years old. I am an adult, and I believe that I should be able to sit in a bar with another woman and have a conversation, without being harassed.
When is this going to end already? It is two thousand and fourteen. The fight for Women’s Suffrage was over a hundred years ago, and while women now are allowed to vote and hold a position in political office, we still remain to be treated as second class citizens all over the world. In most societies women are still refused basic human rights by males. Regardless of the fact that we are fifty one percent of the worlds population.
I am tired of the excuse, “That is just how the world is” also. Another problem. Almost one hundred percent of the time when I illustrate my frustration with events like this (with other women) they say “That is just how the world is.”
However, this is not how the world has to be. Women are people, girls are people, and we should be treated like people. If more women said “This is not acceptable behavior,” instead of “That is just how the world is,” perhaps we could get closer to the end of this garbage.
Women should be able to walk down the street without being whistled at. Women should be able to feel comfortable wearing whatever we like without being judged or gawked at.
And most importantly women should be standing together. Girl bashing has to stop. We are never going to get anywhere until we stand together and tell men that this is not acceptable and it must end.
"I am not an angry girl
but it seems like I’ve got everyone fooled
every time I say something they find hard to hear
they chalk it up to my anger
and never to their own fear
and imagine you’re a girl
just trying to finally come clean
knowing full well they’d prefer you
were dirty and smiling”
-Ani DiFranco, Not a Pretty Girl.
Frances Ha (2012)
This woman deserves a round of applause and a throne of gold. This is the most realistic & amazing thing for someone to say for this generation of students. I wasn’t able to go to college this year because my parents can’t afford to send me and I had every scholarship, grant, loan known to man and it still wouldn’t work. Finally someone gets it!
WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR PEOPLE TO REALIZE THIS?!
SO MANY OTHER COUNTRIES EITHER PAY FOR THEIR POPULATIONS’ EDUCATION OR JUST WRITE OFF THE BILL IF DOESN’T GET PAID FOR.
THE WAY THE AMERICAN EDUCATION SYSTEM WORKS IS BACKWARDS AND MANGLED.
Drawing from photographs, Lauren King
Everybody’s got a thing, Miriam Marlene Waldner
You’ll read a book that will change your life. People say that all the time, especially your grandma and your mom and your professors in college, and it always made you roll your eyes but now you get it. Life is changed. You are this book’s bitch. You fell in love with it in the same way you fell in love with someone in high school: blindly and all-consuming. I’m talking about the book that became the lens from which you chose to see the world. You were just waiting for something to come along and explain to you how the world works, to make it all easier for you. and it came. You will remember this book more vividly than some of the people you dated for three months in college.